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Ok i have a question, I'm 18 years old and i graduate high school may 25th then I'm going to start work at a cheese place where my dad works (he got me in) but now I'm getting worried because my mom said she's holding onto the money i make and pretty much demands it like its a matter of fact. And i dont want her to i want to say "No! I'm 18 I've rightfully earned the money its my responsibility..." does my mom have a right to just take my money!? Also id like to mention my parents have this thing "you live under our roof you live under our rules" should i stand up to my mom and say *no!* also i plan to move out come september/october do my parents have a right to say i cant and what do i do if they do say that? Please help me out! All advice is appreciated!!!!

I can understand your frustration but remember your parents have probably paid so much money for you growing up you do owe a lot to them.

"does my mom have a right to just take my money!?" no she doesn't but don't just say no.

The best thing to do is say mom/dad I want to have a serious talk with you. Use a word like serious and they will pay more attention. Just say how you are feeling and they will understand and maybe not take your money.

she probably just wants to make sure you dont blow it on stupid things..

Do you have a bank account? set up direct deposit into your account that way you wont have to hand her the check.

You can also use the How am I suppose to learn responsibility if you wont let me handle my own money specially if i plan on living on my own and paying my own bills in a few months..

This is a tough time for you --and your parents: your relationship is changing. They are still used to you as the 10 year old who needed a ride to school and friends homes. You are ready to spread your wings to see how you can fly. They are still your parents but as you mature, they will become more like advisors and guides rather than ordering you around --"Because I said so," type things.

Find out why your mom thinks she should handle your money. It could be like il0veseamushp said that she thinks you will just blow through it or maybe it is more serious like she thinks she is losing you and she thinks that if she has your money you will still talk to her.

If that's the case, have a good heart to heart talk, "You will always be my mom, I'll always come around," etc. But having a talk with both your parents about everything would be a good idea. You still have to live by their rules until you move out so ask what they want from you over this summer. Be open with them and hopefully they will reciprocate. They have supported you so far so try to remember not to be accusing adn confrontative--"You CAN'T have my paycheck" etc, and starting an arguement. Maybe they would like a percentage of your paycheck--that might be a good test run to see how your finances will go when you are on your own with your rent due each month.

One final thing: we might argue with our parents and at times really not like them but most the time they truely have our best interests at heart--it might not work, but most the time they want what is best for us. You won't always live with them, you might not always be available to take their calls, but they will always be your parents.

Good luck!

BossC

Ok so this may sound tough on your mother but here goes.......

1. NO you mother doesn't have the right to hold all of your $$.

2. IF she wants a PIECE of your money, in my opinion you guys should sit down and WORK out a payment plan for each paycheck for you to pay like $75 and then put $25 in the bank then keep the rest for autographs collecting or other hobbies you have that u wanna do in your free time.

3. NO your mother can't make your live in the house with her. If you are moving out in Aug/Sep AGAIN sit down and talk to her about the area you are gonna live in, WHO is gonna live with you and Reassure her that you will be safe and you will be paying the bills with you and your room mate (if you are having one..)

4. I don't care if that is your mother or not. She has to realize that you are growing up and becoming a young adult who has needs and CAN NOT survive on $0 every 2 weeks...LOL!

Sit down with your mom, be mature AND TALK. No rude words, no yelling: ONLY TALKING.