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my best friends mother passed away on Wednesday and i just learned about it now
what would say to them?
her mom was 55 and was fighting cancer for a while now
it was the day after christmas too
i really dont know what to say to her

I would say you were very sorry to hear of her mum's passing and if she needs to talk she knows where you are. I've dealt with death quite a lot in my line of work and this always works for me.

I am sorry. I feel your pain. I know of someone who passed away form Breast Cancer.

Peyton wrote:I am sorry. I feel your pain. I know of someone who passed away form Breast Cancer.

i think that is the type of cancer that she had
thanks for your help margotchanning and Peyton

That sorry to hear about the terrible news. I know how you feel because I've had so many friends who lost their parents

danny2010 wrote:my best friends mother passed away on Wednesday and i just learned about it now
what would say to them?
her mom was 55 and was fighting cancer for a while now
it was the day after christmas too
i really dont know what to say to her

This is a really important post. Thanks for making it Danny :neutral:

All you can do is to make your friend aware that you are there if they need to talk about anything, and to give them the support they need to get through the short-term. The pain will be unbearable for quite some time, and they need to know they can rely on you.

Try not to turn your back because you are embarassed, or because you don't feel you are helping. From experience, your friend will want to talk about their loss, and not feel awkward about doing so.

I know when I lost my younger brother in 1999, the thing which hurt me most was that people would rather avoid me than have to admit they didn't know what to say to me. Remember, you don't have to have all the answers, but just be prepared to listen.

I know it is a rubbish cliche, but things do get easier eventually, but only with the support of great friends like you.

Best of luck,
Ian :neutral:

I lost my mother almost three years ago from Breast Cancer, she was 52. It is hard to loose a parent that means so much to you. Just be there for your friend when she needs you and don't worry about what to say. It's more important to know that you have people that care about you and your loss rather than what is actuallly said. Just be there for your friend when she needs you.....trust me, that alone means the world.

Melissa